3 Questions to Plan Your Day (Without Losing Your Sanity)
We all start the morning with a swirl of thoughts: obligations, ambitions, random cravings (coffee, always coffee). The problem? Without direction, the day tends to drive us instead of the other way around. That’s how you end up lying in bed at 11 p.m. wondering what the hell you even did with your time.
Enter: three deceptively simple questions that can transform your day from chaotic to intentional.
1. What do I WANT to do today?
This is where your joy, creativity, and actual humanness come in. It’s not about “shoulds.” It’s about what lights you up. Maybe it’s finishing that book on your nightstand, baking banana bread, or finally texting your best friend back.
Asking this first keeps life from becoming one long to-do list of drudgery. You’re not a machine. You’re a whole person. Start with what you want, and suddenly the day feels less like a slog and more like an opportunity.
2. What do I HAVE to do today?
Now comes the non-negotiables. Bills, appointments, deadlines, that email your boss will actually notice if you ignore. These are the anchors of the day.
Here’s the trick: write them down after your wants. This way, the obligations don’t swallow everything else. They’re just puzzle pieces you’re fitting around the life you actually want to live.
3. What would make me proud of myself tonight?
This is the tie-breaker question. When you crawl back under the sheets, what’s the one thing you’d like to look back on and say, “Hell yeah, I did that”?
It might be small—like finally folding the laundry—or big, like hitting send on a scary application. Either way, this question forces you to choose something that matters to you personally, not just what checks a box.
Putting It Together
Try this:
Grab your coffee/tea/sparkling water of choice.
Write down your answers to all three questions in a notebook or your Notes app.
Build your day around the intersection: the things you want, the things you have to, and the one thing that will make you proud.
It’s simple, it’s quick, and it keeps you grounded in what actually matters—your balance of joy, responsibility, and growth.
✨ Pro tip: If you only do one thing today, make sure it’s the answer to Question #3. Everything else can shift, but that’s the one that will let you sleep satisfied.
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